Lighting a Match in the Dark: The Brave, Messy, Magical Work of Healing
This week, while I was studying, Dr. Joe Dispenza said something that honestly stopped me in my tracks:
“You have to be willing to light a match in a dark place.”
And whew… did that ever land differently than I expected.
I’ve been on this personal development / healing / self-awakening / whatever-we-want-to-call-it journey since at least 2010. I’ve read the books, taken the courses, left the job that crushed my soul, followed my intuition across the entire country, learned NLP, studied coaches, teachers, and researchers who changed the way I see the world…
And somehow, even after all these years, that sentence hit me like a truth bomb delivered straight to the gut.
Because it’s real.
And because it names the one part of healing most people don’t talk about.
Healing Isn’t All Soft Blankets and Pretty Journals
Don’t get me wrong, I love a cute notebook and a good bubble bath as much as the next spiritual woman who also enjoys a glass of red wine and a day where no one talks to her.
But that’s not the whole journey.
Real healing, the kind that actually shifts your unconscious patterns and rewrites the stories you’ve been dragging around for years...asks more of you.
It asks you to turn toward the things you’d rather avoid.
It asks you to stop pretending you’re “fine” when your body is screaming otherwise.
It asks you to admit when you abandoned yourself because it felt safer, quieter, easier.
Healing asks you to meet the parts of you that are still scared, still hurting, still hiding in the corners waiting for you to come find them.
And yes, sometimes it absolutely sucks.
Sometimes it brings up old wounds you’d swear you already handled.
Sometimes it surprises you with emotions you didn’t see coming.
And sometimes it feels like you’re fumbling around in a pitch-black room thinking:
“Are you kidding me? We’re doing this again?”
Welcome to the club. We’ve all been there.
The Match Isn’t There to Shame You, It’s There to Guide You
Here’s the thing that cracked me open this morning:
The match doesn’t just expose the darkness.
It reminds you that you’re the one holding the light.
You are...and always have been...your own source of illumination.
That tiny flame?
It’s your courage.
Your truth.
Your willingness to look at the stuff most people avoid for entire lifetimes.
You’re the one brave enough to say,
“Okay… let’s see what’s really here.”
That’s what healing looks like. Not perfection. Not constant positivity.
Just willingness.
Humans Don’t Heal Alone — We’re Not Wired That Way
This is where safety comes in.
This is where community matters.
This is where connection becomes medicine.
Your nervous system heals faster when you’re not isolated.
Co-regulation (yes, there’s science here) literally helps your brain and body feel safer so you can process what’s been buried instead of avoiding it.
And sometimes, you don’t need advice.
You just need space...real, grounded, human space, where your truth can land without being judged or rushed.
Spaces where you can wobble without shame.
Where you can rise without pretending.
Where lighting a match doesn’t feel like a solo expedition...it feels like standing in a circle of women holding candles, quietly saying:
“You’re okay. Keep going. We’re right here.”
That’s the power of community.
That’s the power of being held.
Healing is Brave Work… and It’s Worth Every Step
It’s tender work.
It’s “I don’t have this figured out but I’m willing to try” work.
It’s “old version of me would’ve run, but today I’m staying” work.
And it’s also the most life-altering, soul-reclaiming work you will ever do.
So if you’re in your own dark place right now…
If you’re holding the match but your hand is shaking…
If you’re wondering whether it’s worth it…
Breathe.
You’re safe.
You’re supported.
And the light?
It’s already in you...it always has been.
If You’re Craving a Space That Feels Safe…Come Sit With Us
If you’re longing for grounded community, for heart-centred conversation, for a circle where you can show up exactly as you are…
We’re building that.
With intention.
With integrity.
With so much love.
You don’t have to walk your healing journey alone.
If it feels right, if your gut says “yes,” if you want to explore this work with people who get it…
We’d love to have you walk with us.
